Do you ever feel like you have no idea what to say or do to comfort a friend when they’re hurting or something tragic happens? That’s me. Second guessing yourself and trying to figure out the most comforting thing to say that won’t sound thoughtless, come out wrong, or make them feel worse somehow. Wanting to try to help them feel better when it seems like nothing can do that.
Guess what? There’s a book for that! A few, in fact, that will help you learn how to comfort a friend in tough situations.
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From the Publisher: “Someone you love is grieving. Do you know what to do, what to say, and how to help? Or do you say “I’m so sorry”, pick up what everyone else does, and perpetuate the mistakes? Let this book be your personal, informative, enlightening guide. Learn what to ask, what to say, how to write a condolence card, what books to recommend, concrete actions to take, and the best ways to be truly helpful and supportive to those you care about, especially when they go through the toughest times of their lives. Make a difference when it counts the most.“
From the Publisher: “Everyone knows someone who’s sick or suffering. Yet when a friend or relative is under duress many of us feel uncertain about how to cope.
Throughout her recent bout with breast cancer, Letty Cottin Pogrebin became fascinated by her friends’ and family’s diverse reactions to her and her illness: how awkwardly some of them behaved; how some misspoke or misinterpreted her needs; and how wonderful it was when people read her right. She began talking to her fellow patients and dozens of other veterans of serious illness, seeking to discover what sick people wished their friends knew about how best to comfort, help, and even simply talk to them.
Now Pogrebin has distilled their collective stories and opinions into this wide-ranging compendium of pragmatic guidance and usable wisdom. Her advice is always infused with sensitivity, warmth, and humor. It is embedded in candid stories from her own and others’ journeys, and their sometimes imperfect interactions with well-meaning friends. How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick is an invaluable guidebook for anyone hoping to rise to the challenges of this most important and demanding passage of friendship.”
There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love
From the Publisher: “The creator of the viral hit “Empathy Cards” teams up with a compassion expert to produce a visually stunning and groundbreaking illustrated guide to help you increase your emotional intelligence and learn how to offer comfort and support when someone you know is in pain.“
From the Publisher: “The Etiquette of Illness is a wise, encouraging, and essential guide to navigating the complex terrain of illness. This collection of anecdotes and insights will help those who feel awkward and unsure about responding to a friend, colleague, or relative who is suffering. The book is also for people who are ill and want to engage with their loved ones effectively. We read about a range of people who are dealing with chronic illness, doctor-patient communications, and end-of-life issues-and who are striving to find their way with awareness and compassion.“
From the Publisher: “Almost all of us know someone with cancer. And, of course, we want nothing more than to offer comfort and support, and foster hope. But we don’t always know how—and may feel uncomfortable asking. Following her own treatment for cancer, Lori Hope created a survey for cancer survivors addressing issues they wanted their families, friends, and caregivers to understand. The results of the newly expanded survey are presented with honesty, insight, and humor, and complemented by scores of compelling personal stories from survivors of diverse ages and backgrounds.”
Some of us have the natural ability to know how to comfort a friend. But, if you don’t have that incredible ability, you’re not alone. Hopefully one of these books will help you communicate love and kindness easier.